host: monty writes in on twitter. guest: it is also parental involvement. parents will call a lawyer for someone else if the school says the child has a problem. the school should not say, "it is all the parents' fault." even the best of parents can be overwhelmed. what happens when the father is not involved? sometimes kids will obsess on the video games. sometimes the best thing a parent can say is "no." if you have a child that is calling the shots and parents say they are afraid, that is not the way to raise children. you can still have mental illness as part of that child, even with the best of parents. host: congressman murphy is the co-author of a book, "overcoming passive aggression," which is published in 2005. william is up next from pennsylvania on the republican line. caller: good morning. i want to give my condolences to the 20 people that got killed. i am 67 years old. hello? i could not hear you. had two kids myself --i had two kids myself. we have to tell people how to raise their kids. i have been involved in the government. we give too muc